This post is not against religion. This is against people’s nasty behavior. I find it funny that they just came out of church and the next thing they want to do is create gossip.
Sunday is a Filipino Day. Mr. Hubby and I call it this way because we meet with most of my compatriots on this day. As much as I like many of them, there are strange behaviors that I have observed. Especially after a church service. As you can see, most Filipinos are quite religious. We grew up in a strict Christian way and we pray wherever we are. We utter great words of Jesus Christ to anyone, to everyone, and proud of it. I have nothing against this. Christians are supposed to be one at heart – one also in deeds.
But I have an anecdote to share from last Sunday (Sept. 1)
Mr, Hubby & I came to the house where a compatriot lives. We especially do not want to go back to that place due to people we don’t like living there with her. There was a big reason for this. We were lied to, our trust betrayed, we were treated like beggars, and were disrespected. We have to resort to a sneaky attack to give back what was owed to us. All in all, it’s annoying to spend so much time with a person you think was trustworthy, but only to find out that they are what others talk about them – was quite disappointing. As much as possible we don’t want to be around that person as she’s also known in the Filipino community to have done to others the same thing to us. But there’s one that we have no problem with and we have to give her something. We were coming back and forth to that place because of that woman. Not because of the “untrustworthy” one. Let’s call her: “H”.
Beside the flat is a Filipino community Christian church. As people were getting out, I saw my compatriots who are church goers. As courtesy calls, I smiled and said my greetings to them. One of them, I especially like. She’s a mother of a person I want to be friends with. I have nothing against her. She has never done anything bad to me before – and I also do not recall treating her badly.
But this Sunday, she did something VERY strange. Instead of saying HI back to me, she said this “Ah you’re here to visit H?”
I replied, “No, tita. We have to see Ate L.”
Then ignoring what I said, she called H, who was inside the church that time and told her, “Oh Nessy and her husband are here to see you. They want to visit you.”
And I interrupted her, “No tita we didn’t come to see her. We have to see someone else.” I did not smile anymore, I must’ve looked annoyed. But who wouldn’t be?
So H went out then she saw us. It was awkward moment. But I didn’t say anything and finally the door opened for us to enter the flat.
As we were about to enter, I looked behind for a second and I saw the faces of my own compatriots; the faces of people that just came out from a church – and people that believe that they can do whatever they want as long as they believe in God. And so even if they become insensitive, disrespectful, tactless, inconsiderate, unsympathetic, vulgar, rude, uncivil — IT IS OK. Because they will be forgiven and they can still go to heaven after they die. So who cares about the feelings of other people?
It is a known story to her that Mr. hubby and I had issues with H. But even after what happened between us, we had to get back there because that person’s nieces and boarder needed something from us. So for 3 months, we were going back to that place, but once in awhile only. Hubby and I ignored our personal feelings for the one person. WE ARE CIVILIZED, afterall, right? So whenever we see H, I actually say a simple HI. (Though she never said anything back. It was ok.) It is only for courtesy purposes. But if we think of the things she did to us, we’ll never forget them. But you know, we want to move forward and be people that forgive, but not forget. It was one of our great lesson dealing with “unscrupulous“ people.
So I do not get it. I do not get why that woman called H. Can’t she read the situation? Even after I told her we came for someone else, she didn’t stop what she wanted to do. That means, she did it on purpose. But for what, I do not know. I only assume base on my other experiences, that she was curious to see our reactions when we see H.
Mr. Hubby also found it weird. He told me that Greeks also do this, not only Filipinos. But then since the 2 of us do not have this kind of mentality like theirs, we find them annoying and my addition to that is – inconsiderate. This is for gossip purposes. Every move you do, every word you say will be used against you. And the stories will be twisted and turned.
But after 1 year of dealing with alot of people, Mr. Hubby and I moved on faster that day. I think we are more accustomed now to strange behaviors of people. They can be annoying, but they are them. If they think it is normal to be like that, I say let them be. We are different from each other, right? But there is a moral code in human history – rewritten, revised, and constituted. Jesus also talked how you should treat your fellowmen. But it looks like those who follow him are not following what he said. I find this funny as those followers are very church-goers.
Forgive me, but I have to say this expression: “Oh,so look who is that Christian!”
Coffee rumblings – END –